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Good Parenting - April 30, 2009

Welcome to the April 30, 2009 edition of good parenting.

Ella Moss presents 2 MORE LIGHTS « Zodiac Times posted at Zodiac Times.

Concerning Kids presents Raising A Highly Sensitive Child posted at Concerning Kids.

Sonja Stewart presents Has The Time Come For Me To Beat My Kids? posted at Parenting Squad.

Fiona Lohrenz presents Ideas For Day Care Activities And Games posted at Child Care Only.

Pat Evans presents How To Help A Child Overcome Their Fear Of The Dark posted at Fear Of Dark.

Debbie Dragon presents US Moms Guiltier Than Moms in France posted at Empowering Mom.

Kevin Heath presents What to do When Kids Talk Back posted at More4kids.

Kakie presents Nature Deficit Disorder: Leave No Child Inside posted at Bur Bur & Friends: Community Park, saying, "Lack of outdoor activity is affecting the health of our kids and compromising their future."

Jacquelyn presents How to Tackle Sibling Rivalry? posted at WParent.com - Wise Parenting Guide, saying, "Do you find that your children are always fighting with each other? Learn simple ideas on how to cope with sibling rivalry."

Jacob Duchaine presents Being a Man posted at Blogging Guy.

Paul Hooper presents Dealing with Problematic Children posted at online-niche-store.com, saying, "If you have your own children then you understand the beauty of seeing your child grow and develop their own personalities. But it is not uncommon for children to become difficult during their development, this could be for so many different reasons"

Becca Glouzstein presents Inspiring your Children posted at Inspiration for Mothers . Com, saying, "What does 'inspiring' our children mean? How can we act as an inspiration to them and lift them up?"

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of good parenting using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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Good parenting - March 31, 2009

Welcome to the March 31, 2009 edition of good parenting.

Meaghan Montrose presents 5 Ways to Connect with your Child | posted at Colleen Palat.

jenafer presents How My kids Can Go from Being Praised to Being Punished in 3.2 Seconds posted at Cage Free Monkeys.

Concerning Kids presents Tips For Parents Of Picky Eaters | Concerning Kids posted at Concerning Kids.

Jacquelyn presents How to Teach Your Children to Help Themselves? posted at WParent.com - Wise Parenting Guide, saying, "Are you being overly helpful to your children? Find out how to teach your children to help themselves."

Emma presents Learning to let go of your child posted at Baby-Log, saying, "Good parent knows when and how to let go."

Nancy Miller presents Safety First – For Your Child posted at Comments on: Top 100 Diet and Fitness Blogs.

Barry presents Letting Kids Earn Their Allowances posted at Associate Money.

Matthew Paulson presents Childs Play Keeping Your Kids Safe posted at American Consumer News.

Sonja Stewart presents Helicopter Parenting Earns Its Wings posted at Parenting Squad.

Nancy Miller presents How to Stay an Informed Parent Without Being a Snoop posted at Ultrasound Technician Schools.

Nancy Miller presents Cut Those Apron Strings Without any Blood posted at Ultrasound Technician Schools.

Kakie presents Until it Hurts, America’s Obsession with Youth Sports and How It Harms Our Kids posted at Bur Bur & Friends: Community Park, saying, "An interview with Mark Hyman, author of the book being released in April called “Until it hurts, America’s Obsession with Youth Sports and how it Harms our Kids.” In this book he examines the power of youth sports in our culture today and how it has reached a problematic state. We discuss his inspiration for the book and some important things he has learned along the way."

Becca Glouzstein presents What to tell your kids about suffering and injustice in the world posted at Inspiration for Mothers . Com.

Meaghan Montrose presents Effective Learning Strategies and Study Skills- Part 1 | posted at Colleen Palat.

Jacob Duchaine presents Suffer the Little Children posted at The Blog of Jacob Duchaine.

Misty presents Learn How to Protect Your Children, Feel Safe, and Stop Worrying posted at Homeschool Bytes, saying, "Part of parenting is keeping our children safe. Here's a great resource to learn the facts, be more safe, and worry less."

Jacquelyn presents Do You Have Low Parental Self-Esteem? posted at WParent.com - Wise Parenting Guide, saying, "Do you know that parents with low self-esteem will influence their children to be the same? Learn how to overcome this situation."

Dana presents Teaching understanding posted at Simple Pleasures.

Beth Dargis presents How to Tame Materialism with Your Kids posted at My Simpler Life - Simple Living.

Peter Jones presents Spark Your Teenager's Inner Strengths: Book Offers Tips, Resources, and the Latest Science posted at Great New Books that Are a Must Read.

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Good Parenting - February 28, 2009

Welcome to the February 28, 2009 edition of good parenting.

Dr. Alan Singer presents FamilyThinking.com: Parents Find Time to Spend with Kids Despite Work Pressures by Dr. Alan Singer posted at FamilyThinking.com, saying, "Parents are spending as much and perhaps more time interacting with their children today than parents in 1965, the heyday of the stay-at-home mother"

Kevin Heath presents Helping Kids Make Friends posted at More4kids.

Jacquelyn presents Is It Right to Criticize Your Child? posted at WParent.com - Wise Parenting Guide, saying, "Is it alright to criticize your child? How would a wise parent do it differently?"

Matthew Paulson presents 8 Money Saving Ideas for Family Fun Night posted at American Consumer News.

Pregnant Woman presents Identical Triplets - Three Bundles Of Joy posted at Pregnancy, saying, "Triplets occur in one of every eight thousand live births"

Fiona Lohrenz presents Encouraging Diversity At Day Care posted at Child Care Only.

Ian Peatey presents How hard should you smack your children? posted at Quantum Learning - nonviolent living.

jim presents Teaching Kids About Money: Tessy & Tab Money Manager Kit posted at Blueprint for Financial Prosperity.

Emma presents What makes a good (or a bad) hairdresser for your toddler posted at Baby-Log.

Homemaker Barbi (Danelle Ice) presents Teaching Our Kids that Being Happy Comes From Inside | Homemaker Barbi posted at Homemaker Barbi, saying, "By teaching our children to find their true happiness inside, we are helping them grow into capable, powerful adults who can master their emotions, who are resilient and can handle life’s ups and downs!"

Lisa Mitchell presents Teaching Your Children About Money posted at Let's Talk Babies.

Kelly presents Fall Fairy House or What to do on a Saturday Afternoon in a Small Town when there is nothing to do posted at I'll tell you later Betty....

Adam presents Parenting Teenagers - Blog posted at Successful Parenting of Teenagers.

:: Suzanne :: presents older child adoption issues: lying posted at :: adventures in daily living ::.

OurBlogs presents Truthfulness posted at A Guide to Raising Great Kids.

OurBlogs presents Leadership - Key Competences posted at A Guide to Raising Great Kids.

Amanda CMJ presents Monday Morning Memo #12: 17 Things to Think About When You Are At Your Wits’ End posted at Extra (Hour)dinary Parenting, saying, "Some tips on how to handle stressful situations!"

Vee presents Thought of the day posted at Tom Zirpoli's Blog, saying, "Dr. Thomas Zirpoli is the author of "Cures for Parental Wimp Syndrome: Top Ten List for Effective Parenting." He is the author of seven books, numerous scholarly papers, holds a Ph.D. in Special Education, degrees in psychology and education. His most prestigious degree is the title of "dad" to Julia and Christopher."

Kakie presents Is your home a soft place to land? posted at Bur Bur & Friends: Community Park, saying, "Here, a mom created a teachable moment for her 13 year old daughter that she will take with her for a lifetime."

Becca Glouzstein presents 5 Things to Tell Yourself when Angry with the Kids posted at Inspiration for Mothers . Com.

Rich Bordner presents Mad at Dad? « The Pugnacious Irishman posted at The Pugnacious Irishman, saying, "In this post I comment on a recent Parenting.com article about mothers who are angry with their husbands. The article gave me a good "kick in the rear" and motivated me to shed my "batchelor" habits for my future wife (example: not cleaning up after myself)."

Amanda CMJ presents Monday Morning Memo #1: Tips for Soothing Babies & Toddlers posted at Extra (Hour)dinary Parenting, saying, "Thanks for the chance to participate!"

Aparna presents Swimming in over-chlorinated pools can have adverse effects on your skin, hair and teeth posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, "If wading in the cool waters of a swimming pool during weekends is your idea of breaking from the monotony and humdrum of daily activities, then you are indeed a wise fitness freak, who combines leisure, hobby and exercise in an amazing way. And why not - swimming is one of the best aerobic exercises around with tremendous health benefits. children in the swimming poolHowever there are certain tribulations that have to be faced. Most swimming pools, especially in the third world countries use chlorine as it is the cheapest and one of the most efficient ways of disinfecting the waters."

Aparna presents Some quick tips for your eyes only posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, "Leave your eyebrow pencil in the refrigerator overnight and it will sharpen easily. 2) For scanty eyebrows add a few drops of glycerine to a little castor oil and apply I it on the eyebrows. Leave it overnight. It will take about 6 weeks for improvement. 3) Apply a little Vaseline on your eyelids to obtain a luminous look. The oil will also prevent eyelids from drying and will help lashes to grow. 4) Amla (gooseberries) lends brightness to the eyes. Soak amla overnight in water and use this water next morning to wash the eyes."

Dianne M. Buxton presents Children's Bedding and Flame Retardants In Bedding - Baby Boomers Too posted at Baby Boomers and Menopause, saying, "An article alerting to the dangers of flame retardants in bedding."

Kathryn presents 17 Tips for Helping a Picky Toddler Eat Healthy Foods posted at Kathryn Vercillo on HubPages, saying, "Firm but fair advice for convincing toddlers to eat nutritious foods."

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Good Parenting - January 30, 2009

Welcome to the January 30, 2009 edition of good parenting.

Margaret Garcia presents Top 100 Blogs for Expecting Mothers posted at Ultrasound Technician Schools.

Vee presents Thought for the day posted at Tom Zirpoli's Blog, saying, "Tom Zirpoli, Ph.D., author of "Cures for Parental Wimp Syndrome: Top Ten List for Effective Parenting," www.tomzirpoli.com or www.parentalwimpsyndrome.com, speaks to your blog's theme. His writings focus on the difficulties of getting children to behave appropriately, temper tantrums, dealing with teenagers, college-age kids who have been on their own and come back home, supervision, ADD/ADHD. He provides a back-to-basics, functional approach to parenting, with clear and simple advice that will inspire parents, childcare providers, family, and friends who love children to think about what they say, what they do, and what they are not doing. Look for humor, comments, and stories that will make you laugh and shake your head."

Kate presents Teacher to Parents: Get Involved! posted at Advice on Love, Life, and Everything Between, saying, "A teacher's perspective on creating a lasting impression for your children in school"

Alvaro Fernandez presents Brain Teaser to Exercise your Memory and Reasoning Skills posted at SharpBrains: Your Window into the Brain Fitness Revolution, saying, "Are you familiar with these American and international proverbs?"

Raymond presents Student Credit Card Rewards posted at Money Blue Book.

Kevin presents Teaching Children Respect posted at More4kids.

Scott Palat presents 5 Steps to Balance Discipline with School Work. How You Can Make Homework Part of a Calm Evening! | posted at Colleen Palat.

Trace D presents BubbaYou.com » Apple Cider Vinegar is the New Soap in the Mouth posted at BubbaYou.com.

Jacquelyn presents The Top 10 Criteria to Be a Wise & Successful Parent posted at WParent.com - Wise Parenting Guide, saying, "Our parenting responsibility is enormous, as we have to prepare our children to be independent, mature and responsible adults. Learn the necessary criteria to be a wise and successful parent."

Emma presents Kids and pets need to learn mutual respect posted at Baby-Log, saying, "How to solve problems that arise when a child co-exists with a pet"

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By admin on Monday, January 26, 2009
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Children, Computers and Internet

Today’s children have access to computers and internet from the very early ages. While parents struggle to stay abreast with the fast chaining world of computing, computers are introduced to children in their early ages. Children to have what were once a luxury for parents is a simple rationale. Not a bad idea at all. After all there are ample of educational software series for children of all ages. Educational software offer mouse and keyboard skills and have the potential to stimulate knowledge during very early stages. From sights, sound, shapes and colours for the very younger ones to maths, science, bio and other subjects for General Certificate of Secondary Education (GCSE) for the teenagers, computers can fill up many gaps. If bored of studies, fun filled computer games can entertain children from dawn till dusk.

In offering computer based learning programs, parents must first try and test software for their age, relevance and offering. User friendliness is critical, cluttered and confusing software are unlikely to offer enjoyment that is expected of it. If unsure about any of these aspects, play it safe by sticking to software from good companies whose job it is to make good educational software for children. Computer games carry age labels now. Age labels are an indication of appropriateness based on content and actions contained.

Internet is a more dodgy area to discuss. Many argue internet is good and that it offers more knowledge than any other medium. True isn’t it?

Cheaper deals for unlimited internet usage means many homes now have internet 24/7. The idea of limitless download means the household with children inclusive can now download their favourite movies, music and also browse internet as much as they want for a fixed price. Not a bad bargain from a cost perspective. What about the bargain for benefits? The latter has become tougher than ever. Preventing the disbenefits is dodgy and near impossible.

Between internet’s availability and benefits is a slippery route to spoiling youth, and this is a disbenefit. Children as young as 10 years are joining social networks by providing false age and this is a concern. Classroom chatter on success stories and attention attained in social networks are causing children to attempt doing the same. Mass distribution of pictures in social network sites attracts attention and provides contact and connection far too early in children’s life. A race among the classmates to count the number of online contacts in instant chat programs is turning contacts on social network into messenger buddies at record pace. Little or no info of these contacts may ever be known. Whom children chat with, and what they may be talking is anyone’s guess. Children with as many as 1000 contacts on messenger chuckle away when it is suggested that they become un-friends with the many. Are they all classmates, friends and relatives or strangers from across the globe? We may never know, nor will they ever reveal the truth.

Ascertaining a child’s use of such social network sites and programs is a first step. Next is to gradually disconnect and distance children from such use. Compensate it by spending quality time with the child. Discourage use of social sites and programs whilst directing into alternative means of entertainment. Establishing an instant barrier or barring access could result in an unhappy encounter specially if he/she has had virtual presence on the internet.

Consider switching to newer operating systems(OS) as they offer a fair amount of parental controls. Parental controls in newer OS include web filters, time limits, games by rating or title, and allow or block specific programs. These controls should be put to practice.

By admin on Sunday, January 11, 2009
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Introducing a column on good parenting

Good parenting is a tough discipline and many fail to pay sufficient attention. Some apply iron fist at some point in barring their children from various habits. Other parents exclude children from their favourite circle for being too bad. Neither iron fist nor exclusion is warranted on innocent children. What is right then? Well, good parenting has the potential to resolve most child related issues.

It happened that Faida Farouk, a friend of mine suggested that I dedicate a column on good parenting. I’m most willing to share my awareness and knowledge in the sphere to advise what is right for the wider good.

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Let's face it; parents are responsible for the upbringing of children.

Young boys hanging around street corners and making a nuisance of themselves are a problem to which we need a solution just as the rest of the countries in the world. They are bad aren’t they? They do things that are beyond sense to us, don’t they? I too agree that such situations should be averted but I am unsure if these circumstances can be termed “a national disaster” as was postulated by Abdulla Waheed in his blog post 'Why are Maldivian boys rude?’. I stand to be corrected, this is the first time I read the term DISASTER being used with childrens' behaviour in a national context. Situations like these require proper understanding from the root that the upbringing of children is a responsibility on parents much more than anyone else’s. Spending quality time and providing good parenthood for their children, from birth to adulthood, is something that parents will have to first discipline themselves and be willing as our natural thoughts and actions may not carry sufficient rigor.

Childrens’ development begins from home where a good caring and loving environment is critical. Sufficient and necessary positive attention is an important ingredient but is also a challenge in situations where both parents, mother and farther are breadwinners. When breast feeding is scientifically proven healthier for brain development, lifestyle and culture in some cases mean that in many families babies are subjected to infant formula milk. In many countries around the world parents are replaced with carers. It is also a fast changing trend in the Maldives, but many of the misbehaving children of today may have had at least one parent (more likely the mother) staying at home discharging household duties. If anything, what is different in the Maldives is that extended families live together in tiny spaces whose collective income is the only means to meet the cost of living in Male’, the capital. Children don’t often have space / a place for them inside the house. In other islands there may be space but empty spaces make up for nothing that there may not even be a proper study table or a chair to go with. Children in poor living conditions are more likely to find happiness outside of home; fathers and mothers may also feel more comfortable without children until a realisation many years later that their children are up to mischief and misconduct. Mothers in household duties often choose televisions instead of engaging with children. This is a problem that parents must rise to correct as soon as possible. If this is the extent that citizen's are reduced to, through strategy, then there lies a problem with the government too.

Many Maldivian parents still think that GCE O' Level is 'the thing' in education and that children at that stage are educated and capable citizens. Is this perhaps the reason that parents stand against teachers in defending a child’s action? Equally wrong is that abandoned children are expected to earn and support parents at such early stages in life. Is this perhaps the reason why child-turned-adults are not successful leading into frustrations in many aspects. If these citizens dont make a living that is expected of a child-turned-adult they are unlikely to become good parents to their children.

Yet I am unable to agree with Abdulla Waheed’s blog post 'Why are Maldivian boys rude?’ is because of parents pampering. The initial offering of baby clothes, toiletries and toys are, at best, the only bit offered to a child whole heartedly with the rest of life on punctuated basic needs. I am also unsure if awareness programmes yielding youngsters in praying 5 times (religious belief), good food consumption and excising (good health); girls wearing headscarf (religious belief); are firstly good and/or secondly of core relevance to good upbringing of children or children's behaviour.

The key to save the young generation is only by dealing with root causes.

By yasir on Sunday, November 11, 2007
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